ADHD, autistic culture, CoMorbidities, Disability Culture, Disability Hacks, Growing up undiagnosed

Disability Hacks: How to Get a Free ADHD/Autism Evaluation if You are in the United States

Diagnosis access is almost impossible in the United States. Insurance does not cover, a lot of people are uninsured or the evaluations are just for children. A lot of people are not lucky like I was to get an ADHD diagnosis in the 80's. I was able to get a free free evaluation on Social… Continue reading Disability Hacks: How to Get a Free ADHD/Autism Evaluation if You are in the United States

ABA, Emma Dalmayne, Growing up undiagnosed

Its OK Not to Be OK, Especially On Mother’s Day

Not everyone has a great relationship with their parents and that's ok. It's hard to love yourself as a parent when you had some pretty bad ones growing up and you grew up in a toxic environment and I want you to know it's ok not to be ok. I did not have the best… Continue reading Its OK Not to Be OK, Especially On Mother’s Day

autistic culture, Disability Culture, Disability Hacks, Growing up undiagnosed

Helping a Neurodivergent Child or Adult with Aggression

*I am not saying forgo mediation, always take medication as prescribed by your physician* Aggression is a much talked about topic in parent groups but not so much in autistic led spaces, or at least in my experience. Aggression is something that a lot of neurodivergent people experience. I experienced it and learned to channel… Continue reading Helping a Neurodivergent Child or Adult with Aggression

autistic culture, Disability Culture, Growing up undiagnosed

Studying Martial Arts is Beneficial to Neurodivergent Children

I am on the right and my friend is on the left. We are practicing blocking and countering techniques. This is a little known fact, I was in karate (fun fact: the word karate mean open handed) as a kid, Kenpo to be more specific. I started when I was young and I stopped when… Continue reading Studying Martial Arts is Beneficial to Neurodivergent Children

ABA, ADHD, autistic culture, Growing up undiagnosed

Intelligence Tests Given to Children are Unreliable and Ableist

It is no secret that I was diagnosed with ADHD as a 6 year old. They did a whole battery of tests. I remember them, vaguely. It is also no secret that I was an abused child. Today, I found out they both have everything to do with each other. Today, in a Facebook group… Continue reading Intelligence Tests Given to Children are Unreliable and Ableist

Growing up undiagnosed

Before I Realized I Was Autistic, I Was a Furry

Before I left home, I was not allowed to be my authentic self. When I left home, I really had to find out who I was. I chose to be in the substance free dorm in college and I met some of the best friends I will ever have. They introduced me to the furry… Continue reading Before I Realized I Was Autistic, I Was a Furry

CoMorbidities, EDS, Growing up undiagnosed

Diagnosis of Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and What a Flare Up is Like

Clues From My Childhood My whole life I had had random pain and injuries I could not explain. I was often told I was faking it or doing it for attention. My parents who were supposed to protect me and take care of me gas lit me my entire life, especially medically. I had a… Continue reading Diagnosis of Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and What a Flare Up is Like

Growing up undiagnosed

Fat Shaming Kids Can Have Lasting Effects

Fat shaming kids can lead to lasting trauma into adult hood. In the autistic community, there are several co morbidities that cause weight gain and it is a symptom of a disorder.  I was fat shamed by my mother, father and grand parents growing up. My brother, who I found now is extremely toxic, joined… Continue reading Fat Shaming Kids Can Have Lasting Effects

Disabled Parenting, Growing up undiagnosed

Keeping Autistic Kids Off the Internet Does Not Protect Them, Teaching Internet Safety Does

My Experience with Being Banned from the Internet As a Child The internet first started to grow when I was in high school. My mother had a friend from Shul who worked for the local cable company and we had high speed internet early. It was great except I was the only one not allowed… Continue reading Keeping Autistic Kids Off the Internet Does Not Protect Them, Teaching Internet Safety Does

autistic culture, Disability Culture, Growing up undiagnosed

Autistic Adult Find Healing From Abuse in Unusual Places

Background It is no secret I was an abused child. I was neglected, abused in almost every sense of the word. I was berated, beaten and made to think I was worthless. I was placed in ABA to change who I was. My parents favorite go to was that I was created to make them… Continue reading Autistic Adult Find Healing From Abuse in Unusual Places