autistic culture, Disability Culture, Growing up undiagnosed

Autistic Adult Find Healing From Abuse in Unusual Places

Background It is no secret I was an abused child. I was neglected, abused in almost every sense of the word. I was berated, beaten and made to think I was worthless. I was placed in ABA to change who I was. My parents favorite go to was that I was created to make them… Continue reading Autistic Adult Find Healing From Abuse in Unusual Places

Growing up undiagnosed

Why the Name Change?

For over 20 years, I have been preferred to be called by my Hebrew name, not my Americanized name. My Americanized name is a symbol of the abuse and torture I had as a child and changing my name is a way of letting that go and being free of the trauma and abuse.  I… Continue reading Why the Name Change?

Growing up undiagnosed

When A Longtime Friend Cuts You Off Ridiculous Reasons and They Want Back In

Friend from Long Ago I was sent away to camp a lot as a child so my parents wouldn't have to deal with me. When Girl Scout came was over, I was sent to day camp for the rest of the year. Back when I was a young child, I guess around 8 because it… Continue reading When A Longtime Friend Cuts You Off Ridiculous Reasons and They Want Back In

autistic culture, Disability Culture, Growing up undiagnosed

Do Not Underestimate What Your Child Can Do

A good friend showed me this video earlier today. It is about a high school student that was told that he was not allowed in the business program simply because he has ADHD. The principal who was speaking to him was worried that the student would bring the test scores down. He wanted to keep… Continue reading Do Not Underestimate What Your Child Can Do

Ableism, Discrimination, Growing up undiagnosed, Queerphobia

Unconsented Disclosure of Disability: An Autistic Perspective

  It is generally accepted that no one outs an LGBTQ person on their sexual orientation or gender identity, the individual comes out of the closet themselves. The person in question controls that conversation. It can have unwanted consequences. It leaves people open for bullying, discrimination, etc.   Unconsented disclosure is on the rise since… Continue reading Unconsented Disclosure of Disability: An Autistic Perspective

Disabled Parenting, Growing up undiagnosed

Careful when Parenting an Autistic Child. Destruction of Their Property Can be Traumatic

There is the right way to parent and there is the wrong way. Making the child scared of you is not the way to parent. Your child will cut all ties off with you when they are tired of the abuse.  When someone destroys something you love, you would be upset. When it is done… Continue reading Careful when Parenting an Autistic Child. Destruction of Their Property Can be Traumatic

Ableism, autistic culture, Disability Culture, Discrimination, Growing up undiagnosed, Queerphobia

My Experience With Ableism, and Homophobia in the 1990's

Homophobia is rampant. It has gotten better but there is more work to be done. Back in 1994, I experienced homophobia even though I had no idea what it was or what homosexuality was. This was before I knew I was part of the LGBTQ+ community. Backstory I went to a middle school dance in… Continue reading My Experience With Ableism, and Homophobia in the 1990's

autistic culture, Disability Culture, Growing up undiagnosed

Is homework worth the mental anguish

After reading this article, it brought back memories of homework when in elementary school. I struggled with homework especially in second grade. I was in a special education classroom but mainstreamed for social studies and mathematics. I was constantly moving, which was great for me. There was no such thing as movement breaks in the… Continue reading Is homework worth the mental anguish

Disabled Parenting, Growing up undiagnosed

Non Verbal Communication can Facilicate Speech

One thing that gets said a lot when it comes to autistic children, non verbal communication hinders speech. In my experience, it facilitates speech. When it comes to autistic children, the milestone timeline is different. It is different for every child and should not be compared to a typical child. I have two examples. One… Continue reading Non Verbal Communication can Facilicate Speech