ABA, Emma Dalmayne, Growing up undiagnosed

Its OK Not to Be OK, Especially On Mother’s Day

Not everyone has a great relationship with their parents and that's ok. It's hard to love yourself as a parent when you had some pretty bad ones growing up and you grew up in a toxic environment and I want you to know it's ok not to be ok. I did not have the best… Continue reading Its OK Not to Be OK, Especially On Mother’s Day

Disability Hacks

You Don’t Have To Take Abuse Via Email, Here Is What To do

Developmentally disabled people, Autistic people specifically, are four to 10 more times more likely to be abused than other populations. According to DisabilityJustice.com We tend to be abused more frequentlyWe are abused for longer periods of timeWe are less likely to access the justice systemWe are more likely to be abused by a caregiver or… Continue reading You Don’t Have To Take Abuse Via Email, Here Is What To do

Disabled Parenting

When A Child Is Properly Supported at Home and at School, the Possibilities are Endless

A is my half brother in law who my husband and I have guardianship of. He and my husband have the same father. LONG STORY. I have permission from A to tell this story. He is super proud of himself. Anyway, when he came to us at 5 years old he was scared. He is… Continue reading When A Child Is Properly Supported at Home and at School, the Possibilities are Endless

Disabled Parenting

Adopted Grandchildren are Just as Important as Biological Grandchildren

It is no secret that I have legal guardianship over 3 children and in the process of adopting another. They are J, A, D and Potato. Potato, being the baby. The other three are my husband's half siblings who they share the same father. We did have guardianship over B, our niece until she went… Continue reading Adopted Grandchildren are Just as Important as Biological Grandchildren

Disabled Parenting

Accepting Feedback From Your Children is Healthy and Needs to be Normalized

Receiving feedback about parenting from your children needs to be normalized. Whenever we are doing a different job or anything else in life, feedback is a natural part of the process and it needs to happen. Only if you don't parent in a way that is effective or healthy for your child, it can have… Continue reading Accepting Feedback From Your Children is Healthy and Needs to be Normalized

Autistic History, Disability History

Autistic History: Willowbrook State School (MASSIVE TRIGGER WARNING)

Willowbrook was a  New York state funded asylum that front itself as a school for the developmentally disabled that was established in the 1930's. It was a complex of buildings that housed adults and children who were developmentally disabled. It was located in Staten Island, a borough of New York City. In this institution, the… Continue reading Autistic History: Willowbrook State School (MASSIVE TRIGGER WARNING)

ABA, Veterinary and Autism

If Electric Fences are Abusive for Dogs, Why are They OK for Your Autistic Child?

As an autistic parent to autistic kids, a veterinary technologist and a human being, I never thought I would have to write this. In an autistic led parent education group someone posted about elopement and how to help their child. One person suggested an electric fence. Adverse Effects of Electric Fences The data is on… Continue reading If Electric Fences are Abusive for Dogs, Why are They OK for Your Autistic Child?

ABA, Autistic History, Disability History

Autistic History: Judge Rotenberg Center

The Judge Rotenberg Center is an institution that is located in Canton, Massachusetts. It was founded by Mathew Israel in 1971 and originally called the Behavior Research Institute. Israel was a psychologist who trained with B F Skinner, the founder of radical behaviorism. In 1994, they changed their name to the Judge Rotenberg Center to "honor the… Continue reading Autistic History: Judge Rotenberg Center

autistic culture, Disability Culture

Stigma Against Cluster B Needs To Stop

Stigma is everywhere. It is against different disabilities, religions, races, etc. It is harmful. There is a lot of it when it comes to the autistic community. The autistic community perpetuates stigma against people with cluster B personality disorders. It's because it was taught like that from the psychologist we see and who study us.… Continue reading Stigma Against Cluster B Needs To Stop

Growing up undiagnosed

Why the Name Change?

For over 20 years, I have been preferred to be called by my Hebrew name, not my Americanized name. My Americanized name is a symbol of the abuse and torture I had as a child and changing my name is a way of letting that go and being free of the trauma and abuse.  I… Continue reading Why the Name Change?